

For most of us, Christmas is a happy time. It is a time when family and friends get together to enjoy the festivities and take stock at the end of another hectic year.
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But for families where parents are separated or divorced, Christmas can be a time of sadness, disappointment and disagreement. It is important to keep a level head and maintain focus on what is best for children over the holiday period.
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My tips to ensure a conflict free festive season include:
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1. Try sticking to arrangements you have agreed upon (or ordered by the Courts) for the children
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If they have to be returned by 2pm after Christmas lunch, make sure they are, no matter how good a time you are having. Failure to abide by Court Orders can have serious consequences to the times parents may be able to see their children in future.
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2. Don’t involve your children in disputes or conflicted situations
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Behaving inappropriately in front of the children is another ‘no-no’ from the point of view of the Family Courts and can also have long-term ramifications on your children.
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3. Ensure your children are protected from harm at all times
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You are both parents and have a responsibility to ensure the children are not exposed to dangerous situations such as an un-fenced swimming pool, roads, animals or others who may not be in full control of their behaviour.
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4. Avoid arguments with the in-laws, no matter how irritating they may be
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Conflict often has long-term and unfortunate consequences because everyone ends up taking sides.
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5. Avoid arguing or fighting in front of your children
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Christmas holidays are often a time of increased tension and conflict in families so it’s important to avoid situations that may tip things over the edge.
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Contact Robert Tedeschi at LBH on rtedeschi@lbandh.com.au